Masculine Leadership

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Did you read the post on “What the h=ll does she want from you?”  If not, check it out.  I told you 3 things that women need from you, but I said that was just a start … there’s more.  And this one is crucial.  

She NEEDS this from you, whether she even knows it or not.  

LEADERSHIP.  

Not boardroom-kind-of-leadership.  Not control.  Not demeaning minimization.  But true masculine leadership.  The respectable kind.  The honorable kind.  The sexy kind.  The badass kind.   

There’s a movement among women today that sounds like “I don’t need a man to lead me.”  And it’s true.  They don’t NEED a man to lead them.  They are incredibly capable and self-sufficient.   

The truth is that a woman WANTS to be led, whether she’s willing to admit it or not. She wants to rest in your masculine energy. She wants to know that you have direction. That you have purpose.   

There’s something comforting (and sexy) to a woman when she’s with a man that wants to be strong for her.  As you lead, you will see her start to relax into her flowing beautiful self and give up her ridged edges that plague your marriage. 

It’s a relief to have someone walk next to her, shoulder a little bit of life’s pain that she feels, and protect her from that which she fears.  And most women (whether they admit it or not) respect a man that’s willing to talk just slightly ahead of her – to protect her from the parts of life she doesn’t want to bear by herself.  

She wants to feel your strength and leadership as a man.  This will allow her to flow in her true feminine nature. 

Here’s what this looks like: 

  • You protect her from anything that could harm her (this includes your mother, if that relationship is strained).
  • You stand up to anyone that puts her down or treats her poorly (that includes your kids if they’re in that stage of complete rebellion).
  • You become the steady place for her to share and feel.  
  • You take action and act decisively. You don’t force her to make decisions.   
  • You initiate conversations about your marriage – to show her that she is a priority and the health of your marriage is important.  
  • You take the lead on finances and spirituality in the family. 
  • You schedule the date night – to show her that quality time with her is important.  
  • You share your opinions & stand up for your own beliefs, even when they’re different from hers.
  • You stand as the grounded and unshakable one in the relationship.
  • You radiate a confidence in knowing who you are.   

If she’s unwilling to follow you, it’s because she doesn’t trust you.  And if she doesn’t trust you, your chances of a fulfilling marriage are shot. 

But here’s the beauty about women: if she loves you, she WANTS to trust you.  She WANTS you to lead.  

And here’s the strength about men: even if we don’t know how today, we were BORN to lead.  We were CREATED as strong men that protect what we love – and there’s nothing that warrants your love more than your beautiful wife.  

You’ve got this.