Another day, the same thing. Bicker, argue, fight, bicker, argue, fight, repeat.
Conflict killed my marriage and to no surprise. As I have alluded to before, conflict is the #1 cause for separation, divorce, and unhappiness in marriage.
Does this sound familiar:
“You always say that; I never do that.
“No, it’s nothing. I’m FINE.”
“Why are you making such a big deal out of this?
“Why won’t you just talk to me. I can’t read your mind.”
Or what about the lack of response, the silence, and the ‘crickets’ you hear from someone for hours or days.
… Silence can be one of the worst types of conflict.
The truth is that marriages don’t end or go to rock bottom over disagreements about money, sex, kids, or conflict created over the feeling of the lack support or love.
They end because the husbands and wives don’t know how to communicate about money, sex, kids, or their unmet needs.
This creates ongoing resentment or conflict. The kind of resentment that sits below the surface and makes a consistent, painful appearance.
It seems like it comes out of nowhere, and it comes hard!
But the truth is, it has never gone anywhere; it’s just never been dealt with.
So, it sits there, and lingers like a dark cloud over your marriage.
I get it. You’re not alone. I’ve been avoiding conflict my whole life! This is entirely too common.
But, it held my marriage back and is holding yours back.
In fact, it’s likely tearing you apart!
You must realize that conflict doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, learning to deal with it is the most connecting thing that you can do.
The conflict that you’re experiencing in your marriage is exactly what you need! You just have to learn how to deal with it.
And to deal with it, you have to do something different than what you’re currently doing.
You have to learn to lean into it … in every aspect of your life … with confidence. Knowing that you have nothing to lose, but everything to gain.